A young mixed race girl in a orange top looks at the camera to show she has overcome coercive control


Coercive control is a type of domestic abuse. It happens when someone threatens, humiliates, or frightens a person repeatedly.

Coercive control in a relationship is illegal. It is always the fault of the abuser, the victim is never to blame.

What is coercive control?

It can be hard to recognise coercive control. Some signs to look out for are:

  • Stopping you from seeing your friends and family
  • Keeping track of you online or making you share your passwords
  • Telling you what to wear
  • Threatening to share private information about you
  • Restricting your access to money or telling you how to spend your money
  • Stopping you from going to work
  • Putting you down, telling you that you’re stupid or worthless
  • Threatening to hurt you, your children or your pets

I'm worried this is happening to me

If you are worried you are in a harmful relationship, you are not alone and there is help available.

Our team will help you to understand coercive control and give you support to decide on what steps you would like to take.

How to contact us

If you live in Wiltshire, you can contact us here

If you live in Devon, you can contact us here 

If you do not live in Wiltshire or Devon, please contact https://chat.womensaid.org.uk/

I'm worried about my own behaviour

Recognising that your behaviour is harming others can be hard but it is the first step towards keeping your loved ones safe. You can choose to change and we can help you to do this.

Ready to make a change?

You'll be offered free group and one to one sessions in a non-judgemental and supportive environment. To find out more or to sign up for support, please use the contact details below.

If you live or work in Wiltshire and have served in the Armed Forces contact us here 

If you live in Devon, contact us here 

If you live in Wiltshire, contact us here 


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